Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Anjali's First Time on the Potty


This morning Anjali used the potty for the first time. Of course most of the time she is wearing her cloth diapers which her Mama and Papa diligently change so as not to have a baby wearing her own pee and poop for very long. And while we are not in the full swing of Elimination Communication (EC), we have been trying here and there to learn Anjali's patterns and cues and to get her to go into a receptacle.

Now, any uninformed reader is certainly saying, "are these people crazy? Potty training their newborn?" Well, let's not confuse potty training with EC. Our goal is to strengthen our bond with Anjali by learning, watching and listening to her cues, as well as giving our own cues, to encourage her need to eliminate. In that process she will strengthen her innate control and her ability to communicate with us, eventually moving toward being diaper-less. This involves things like observing how long after feeding she pees (keep in mind infants can pee something like every 15 minutes or so) and bringing her to a potty to eliminate...Or, regularly "peeing" her right after waking up, typically a need-to-go time. We may cue her with with a "Sssss" sound or run water. The other side of this is learning the expressions, sounds or movements she makes when she has to go, reading those cues and acting on them by either pottying her or at least changing her right after she goes if we miss. Basically, why would we want to let our baby sit in her own pee and poop day after day (who would want that?!) for, say, two years, and then tell her to unlearn all of that to "potty train her?

So, this morning after a half hour of holding her, singing and listening to music, she crashed out. And maybe 15 minutes later she was fidgeting a bit, so I thought I'd try our new "hat" potty (see picture). This is a tiny potty for little butts. I held her above it and made the "ssss" sound, and sure enough she went. While this may not seem like the biggest break through in the world--one time our daughter peed and pooped in a plastic hat--this was clear confirmation that we are not insane for trying this! Plus, it worked again this evening!

Stay tuned for updates in the EC saga...

4 comments:

TPS-SheilaP said...

THIS IS AWESOME! now we are truly on this journey together. you'll have to join christy and darla and i for our EC mamas get togethers (since many of the mamas from the diaper free online group live far away). congratulations!!!

Nancy and Christopher said...

Wow! Well done reading those cues! I am still fascinated with EC and definitely want to give it a try once our little guy gets here. Please do keep us up-to-date on the saga!

Emily Sachar said...

Just stumbled on your blog, and I have grown children. Maybe some day they'll have children of their own and I'll want to be up on the very latest in potty-training. Just curious as I learn the details of EC: What happens if your daughter inadvertently poops in her diaper or has to poop when you or your husband isn't around? How does that work exactly?

Madhavi said...

Emily. It's simple, if she poops in her diaper we change her diaper and clean her off and better luck the next time. We can't catch them all, and it's probably more difficult early on. The idea is to develop communication--to learn your baby's signals and cues, and for her to learn yours. A good place to start learning more is Ingrid Bauer's book "Diaper Free". There are also websites on EC that can be of help also.